My mother passed away on Saturday. Everyone keeps telling me how sorry they are, and this started me thinking. I am feeling strangely detached at the moment, but that is OK. How are you supposed to feel when someone dies? Well just how you are feeling¦. You will know your emotions better than anyone else. So when people tell you how sorry they are¦ (its what everyone says when they hear someone has died¦ its because they expect you to be sad and upset, and that they are expecting you to be experiencing grief in this particular way.
I have learned through my many years as a therapist not to have expectations of what my emotions should be right now.I share this story with you so that when you lose someone close to you, whatever you feel, angry, relieved, sad, acknowledge your emotions¦. Your path through grief is as unique as you.
